‘We’ – The Women


**The sky lined with dark clouds, the trees fighting an unknown war, the rain from the sky: saddening and loud. Flooded roads echoing the cries and loud bangs of objects falling on earth with a glaring tail of light…an apocalyptic scenario. And, that is what exactly her state of mind was like. She was calm and composed on the surface, but inside there was a fire-bomb ticking, waiting for a trigger to explode!**

Every man on the face of earth, atleast once in his lifetime thinks of a women as a living being that is as complex, complicated and sometimes, even destructive as an apocalypse. *Well, some of it might even be true!*

We, the fairer factions of the world on the other hand have similar feelings for men. The only difference is that it is not limited to just once or twice in a lifetime. We’ll jump up and think thousand worse things about men, every time a man passes lewd remarks at us *And why not*. Each time your boyfriend dumps you, you’re (And, for that matter every girl) going to set out on a ‘Men-are-pathetic’ spree and give hateful looks to even the cutest guy who passes by *It’s okay, you can do that*.

Now, why have I started yapping this out without any ALERT, If that’s what you’re thinking; here: Women are complicated, Men can never understand a woman etc etc; Ain’t you fed up of listening to all these cliches? Oh, well I am! I’m certainly not disagreeing to the fact that we are complicated. Yes, we are and why not; the best treasures can only be found after going through a mind-wobbling maze.

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And now, Dear Men : a little talk for you;

Unlike men, we’re sensitive and we overreact. And yes, I hate to roll this ball out but the basic nature of every woman is the same. *Not the ‘bad’ same, the good same*. We expect to much. The last thing you do in your life on earth to annoy a woman is to tell her to stop expecting. If you do that, it’s time for you to pack your bags and get out of her life.

Expecting things (not materialistic) is our favorite hobby. Tell us to do anything, but once you tell a woman that she’s expecting too much; Dude, eventually you’re going to be kicked out. * Repeat after me: Never tell or teach a woman about her expectations (Follow the same for shopping and make-up too).

Leaving the small things a side,we’re humans just like you are. We can be impatient, impractical and over-emotional but none of it makes us lesser than you in any way.

We’re stronger than you and its high time you admit it. No, I’m certainly not talking about the physical pains that we take in order to bear your kids, but we’re strong for the fact that we keep on looking beautiful and never stop smiling even when the hottest rod of life strikes.

No, I don’t mean to say that you need to start worshiping women and fulfill all their expectations. There are only a few things every woman would want a man to understand..and that’s just how simple it is.

(Also,the next time your girlfriend comes to you crying (watery eyes) to you, instead of shouting at her to stop being a cry-baby. Hold her, that’ll help. Your harsh words would seriously never soothe our problems, get this straight and get this right!! – One of them.)

You need to think of us more than someone who’s dabbled up in pink from head to toe. Please there’s much more meaning to a woman’s existence and identity than just her concealer, lipstick and mascara.

Womanhood is about a lot of strength!
Womanhood is about a lot of strength!

You need to quit underestimating a woman’s capacity to drive or fight. (If you still do, bet you haven’t heard about classy women like Lisa Kelly.)

No, no, no, I’m not nagging nor I’m complaining and neither am I telling you understand a woman, what I’m trying to put up here is that you need start treating women the way they deserve to be treated. We’re not for you to be treated as playstuffs. We’re not for you to be shouted at..and We’re certainly not for you to be manhandled!

**Okay, why am I so stirred up about men ill-treating women: you’ll find the reason here: REASON WHY AM FURIOUS TODAY!**

Monday Tomorrow ūüė•

Teesha

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I’m a Woman and This is 2014


Women clad in sarees with their ‘ghoonghat’ ( as we Indians say it) reaching their navels; sounds 1950ish to you? Wait up.. until you read what I’m just about to type in next!

I’m putting up in the capital city of Punjab. It’s obvious that people, especially women here are independent, strong and bold (well..most of them, don’t forget its I N D I A.) ¬†Seeing women with the ‘ghoonghats’ not leaving their faces is something ‘not-very’ but somewhat rare here nowadays (Atleast I thought that way). Okay, so you want to know what exactly happened and why I’m reaching out to you with this? Here’s what it is about:

My Grandma had to be operated upon yesterday ( a minor surgery), so while I was sitting in Waiting Lounge for Patient’s Attendants, I saw these two women. Now what was so ‘attractive’ about these women were their veils which were reaching down to their navels..and LITERALLY, down to the navel. A kid was clutching onto the finger of one of these women, while the other was blindly following the¬†footsteps of the man who accompanied them. (Of course, blindly..with veils under the effect of gravity, they had to follow someone in order to avoid falling down). They sat next to me, I couldn’t help but observe them keenly. All I could make out was that the woman clutching the kid was his mother and the man was her husband, while the other woman was the man’s sister. Also, other thing that I noticed was, that they did not let their faces get any air until the man was around! And, as soon as the man left those two, they hurriedly freed themselves of the ‘primitive masks’. I was…My..face was..Man..I was..I don’t know Speechless. I mean, Ya okay..We’ve all heard stories about women still living the 1940ish-50ish lives in some parts of India, but really looking at this midst the hocuspocus of a hospital set-up one of the most neoteric cities in India…it was FREAKING ME out.

And, now about this man…When he crossed me to sit next to his wife,all I could or for that the entire lounge could smell of nothing but the ‘Beedis’ he might have smoked a decade ago. With a mole on his right cheek and yellow-to-orange-turning-black teeth, he looked no less than one of the minions of Virappan to me. I was freaking out and his man, was checking out another girl, aged 13 maybe sitting right across the room, only because she was dressed in a pair of ¬†shorts and half-sleeves t-shirt ( I mean..not a halter, not a tank top, a simple t-shirt which really made her look ‘plain-jane’. Had she been dressed in something more ‘comfortable’ (I’ll say) God knows what this man might have done.)

I'm a Woman and this is 2014
I’m a Woman and this is 2014

The thing here is: This is 2014 that we’re living in.. Come On..Can you please stop making the women of your house feel like their some living puppets for you?? It’s the age where women are creating the rules of the society and flying high when it comes to their professions. Have you ever though what’s wrong?

Is the flaw in our ‘so-called values’?

Actually, I think..the problem is we are living in 2014, but we’re thinking in 1947..Stiilll..a lot of us.

Only because the anatomy of a woman is different and much more interesting than a man, it leaves them in no place to exploit us when they want. *Remember, A woman is much more powerful than you are, Thanks to this Anatomy*.

I’m furious, and I’m going to say this loud:

I’m a woman and this is 2014, so I refuse being¬†bound by veils, whips and chains.

I’m a woman and this is 2014, so I take pride in living my life the way I want.

I’m a woman and this is 2014, so I will wear my heart on my sleeve.

I’m a woman and this is 2014, so I refuse to live by the olden patriarchal norms.

I’m a woman and this is 2014, so I’m going travel the world all alone.

I’m a woman and this is 2014, so I will hang-out when I want and with whom I want.

I’m a woman and this is My Life!

Head Held High

-Teesha

THE ‘NEW-YEAR’ RESOLUTION TAMASHA!!


Twenty-fourteen started just like every other year does..with smiles & celebrations. I’ve been busy eversince this year started, busy writing web contents at work which is why I haven’t had a chance to put up the first post of this New Year!!

Greetings to all!! *It isn’t too late to wish you all a very Happy New Year*.

1st January “every year”, we play angles with ourselves trying to rectify all our mistakes. *Resolutions, I’m talking about* We’re all just equally familiar with this resolution game, Right?! While some of us swear to cut down on junk food, others try making the most of their careers. *Different People, Different Resolutions*.

¬†I think..when you’ve got to do something, you’ve just got to do it. Tagging these things as resolutions is not really required. We make ‘resolutions’ and then go back at demolishing them within our. The word ‘resolution’ is made a mere understatement by us. Keeping a resolution isn’t tough, you just need to trick your mind into doing something you really want.

This is what I mean by the 'Resolution' Tamasha.
This is what I mean by the ‘Resolution’ Tamasha.

I’ve been thinking about a few *resolutions* too. Let’s not use this word ‘resolution’, Errrr..I think..‘I-gotta-do-it-lution’ is better!!

These aint things that I try to do this year. These are things that I WILL ACHIEVE THIS YEAR!!

Just 5 things and my year will be sorted!! Here’s what I’ve thought about.

T R A V E L!! Have I ever told you how much I want to explore every inch of the world around me. Just because my opportunities were bleak, I haven’t really worked towards it. This year feels to be just the right time to start with it!! So I’m going to travel to at least six places this year!! *Pssst..I just traveled to my hometown, a week back..solo!! It was epic*

W R I T E!! Besides my job, I will manage a new blog. *My Travel Experiences need to be shared somewhere, right!!

SHED THOSE EXTRA KILOS!! Okay!! This one’s outdated. But seriously, I’m not going to look at junk or sweets at least before I turn a year older *birthday*.

P.S: *I’m not fat, I’m on the a few kilos far from turning fat*

F O C U S!! More focus..More confidence!! More flamboyance!! More happiness!! More Concentration!!

SELF-LEARNING!! I’m going to teach myself, the art-of-staying-calm. Patience is something, I’m devoid of..and now is the right time to gather it!!

You have a list of ‘i-gotta-do-it-lution’?? Cut it short into pieces and them try walking on it!! It’ll feel achievable!!

Teesha 

Is Marriage the Ultimate Destination of our Lives: India


Okay, so…I hope you’re having a wonderful weekend. I’m having a lazy one at home with family. It’s all about..watching television, reading a few posts, eating my favorite meal and about taking a super short break from work.

Coming to television, a talk show, Zindagi Live caught my attention today. The issue being talked about gripped me and instigated some thoughts. Today the show was covering ‘zindagi-ies’ of three women..three divorced women.. three women who were happy with their lives after divorce. It was wonderful to hear them talk about the happiness this decision had brought to their lives. You see the confidence in their eyes.

How is marriage such an important part of our lives? We, Indians.. are we born and brought only for this one thing?

You’re born..You go to a good school, because you need good education..You need good education, because you need good professional degree. You need a degree for a job..and a Job for a good spouse..!! AND THAT’S IT..!! We know the part post marriage..there’s love..there’s honeymoon..moons..then there are kids..and then..its about you taking care of your kids..!! Your live’s finished..Your personal identity is gone..the love..is gone !!

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Have you goofed up, already!!

Why is marriage so important? I mean.. you’re toiling hard for what..!! To earn good..to live a good life..to be financially secure and to enjoy your life..this should only be about it..!! How does marriage get to play a bigger part?

**Ok..Ok..I know there might be people who are smitten by this marriage thing, but let’s talk about the majority of Indians.**

You’re 22..You’re young..People around look at you with popping eyeballs..they’re more interested in knowing your marriage plans while their marriage is still struggling. I mean..what duhhh..fhh..!!

Marriage shouldn’t be an agenda. We need to understand that there are things to be done in life beyond marriage. A person needs to chalk out their own identity before being associated to someone else’s.

Specially, Women..Its stupid to get married because you’ve turned 28 and all your friends are sailing off to their honeymoons. You don’t want to end up in doing this.

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You don’t want to end cursing yourself!

Getting married because you’re parents think its time isn’t a sensible thing to do. Love or Arrange, marriage should happen to a person when he’s ready..socially, mentally and financially.

Even if marriage does not happen to you eventually..don’t go mad..Its not the end of the world.. Go ahead, chase the ends of the world and make the most of your ‘single-hood’. If its meant to be..it will be..

At least you’re no marriage decision will save you from this :

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Marriage: the Line of Control

Some famous marriage quotes :

Marriage works best for men than women. The two happiest groups are married men and unmarried women.

Gloria Steinem

Marriage is really tough,because you have to deal with feelings…and lawyers.

Richard Pryor

Before you make your big decision..Think…Think hard…Think harder…Think the hardest you can..!!

The little red dress : Girl’s new best friend


” When in doubt, wear red.”

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The fierce red

How many times have you followed this ultimate fashion fact. Red has always been the last-minute pick up clothing for every occasion. For ages now¬†, we know how the little black dress has been the prime choice for every date or an-evening-out-with-friends and we also know that red has always been ‘the’ color. And when both the little and the red come together to craft out ‘The little red dress’, the magic is created.

Nothing brings more confidence and grace to a girl than a perfect little red dress that hugs her body like a lover. A red dress can be worn in many ways. You can accessorize it to look cute, sexy, sweet or anything you want. The little red dress of yours can be a splendid option when going out for a lunch. Be it an afternoon or an evening event, you can never go wrong with red.

Combining a little red dress with those black high heels, letting your smokey eye make-up out, plus the red puckered lips can do the best trick and make you look sexy in seconds.

For the day, you may throw a cropped denim jacket over your little red dress and maybe, a pair of long boots with a pair of good sunglasses is all.

With a little red dress in your closet, you can never go wrong. So hunt down a good red dress, if you don’t have one and get ready to paint the town red.

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